6 Reasons Why She Stopped Having Sex
Posted by firstmoar on June 14, 2009
by. Melissa LaRicca
Askmen Women’s Sexuality Correspondent
You’ve been with your girlfriend for a while, and things have been going well — or so you thought. Lately, she is never in the mood. You’ve tried everything from seemingly endless foreplay to jumping her bones Tarzan-style, and nothing is working. In fact, your kid brother seems to be getting more action than you. What gives?
I hate to break it to you, but in the absence of her having a serious medical condition, this generally means that your relationship is in serious trouble or may even be ending. Think I’m jumping the gun a tad? Read on to discover the major reasons why women stop having sex with their significant others and see what I mean.
1- She’s angry at you
Most women cannot be intimate with a man they’re angry with. And, unfortunately for you, many women bottle up their resentment, instead of simply letting you know when you’ve done something that upsets them. This means that your woman might be stark raving mad at you, yet you haven’t the slightest clue that you’ve done anything wrong.
Solution: Talk to her and calmly ask her if you’ve done anything that has upset her lately. If she quickly says “no,” and tries to change the subject, ask her again and encourage her to be honest with you. It’s possible that after she gets what’s bothering her off her chest, you two can have a mind-blowing round of make-up sex.
2- She’s overwhelmed
Maybe your woman isn’t interested in sex because she is just overwhelmed with obligations lately. Between her work, workouts, night classes, family dinners, drinks with friends, cleaning the apartment, and cooking you dinner, it’s a miracle that her head hasn’t spun off.
Solution: When she gets home tonight, offer to help ease her load by cooking her dinner and doing the dishes. And tell her that she isn’t allowed to do anything but sip a glass of wine and relax. I guarantee that she’ll feel so loved and appreciated that she’ll want to do anything to please you in return.
3- She’s doesn’t like sex
To be blunt, some women just don’t like sex. Such women have sex with a guy in the beginning of the relationship to “land him,” but once they have him where they want him, they don’t feel that they have to have sex with him anymore. For women such as these, sex is a weapon they use to “reel in” men, and not a fun activity they enjoy.
Solution: Find out if she had bad sexual experiences in the past that have made her dislike sex. If so, why don’t you try to change her mind about it, and show her how great it can be? If she insists that she simply doesn’t have the same appetite as you when it comes to sex, then it’s up to you to decide how important sex is to you.
4- She’s feels unsexy
It’s very simple: If your girlfriend feels unsexy, she won’t want to have sex. Maybeshe’s put on a few pounds, she’s exhausted or someone insulted her. It’s not uncommon for a woman to judge herself too harshly. We are emotional creatures, after all.
Solution: Encourage her to take some time to pamper herself or treat her to an afternoon at the spa, or, better yet, give her a long massage. Sometimes something as simple as paying her a genuine compliment will remind her how attractive you think she is, and get her raring to go.
5- She’s thinks the sex is boring
Perhaps the reason she no longer wants to have sex with you is because it has become a tad too dull and routine for her liking. If you catch her yawning amid sex, or worse; you’d rather be watching TV than pumping away, then chances are this the case.
Solution: Have sex in a different location, such as in a secluded outdoor spot. Incorporate aphrodisiacs, such as chocolate and strawberries, into your lovemaking. Buy her a naughty negligee or toy. You get the idea.
6- She’s no longer attracted to you
Despite what she may say to your face, she may never be in the mood for the simple reason that she is no longer attracted to you. Although your touch used to send shivers throughout her entire body, and it took the greatest amount of restraint to wait until you got home from a party to have sex, you just don’t turn her on anymore. And if she has an ounce of tact, she will tell you so in a subtle manner.
Solution: Perhaps the reason she is no longer attracted to you has little to do with you, per se, and more to do with someone else. Does she seem distant lately? Does she have a short fuse when it comes to you? Is she into doing things and going places that she never had an interest in before? If so, her attention may lie with another.
If this is the reason for your lack of intimacy lately, then I’m afraid there isn’t much that can be done to resolve the issue. It is best to go your separate ways
